Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 10.

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There is a spiritual dimension to every individual. This spiritual position for the Christian must be understood in order to benefit from it. Day 10 of the “Let's Stop Rape” campaign shows us a little of that.
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Day 10
- The leading of the Spirit: This a special  arrangement available to every believer in Christ Jesus. The presence of the holy Spirit in the believer give him the privilege of being led. To be led is to be influenced by the holy Spirit. This influence includes giving directions and Instructions even in specific activities.  The leading of the Spirit can be very specific and detailed. He can tell you where to go or not to go. When to be somewhere or not. The Holy Spirit can even lead you out of danger.
As much as this is available to every believer to benefit from, it is not everyone that benefits from it. To benefit from the leading of the Spirit you must learn to keep in step with the Spirit. This is real and shouldn't be shoved aside. You will only get better at doing so as you yield to the Holy Spirit.
To know more, talk to a Christian that understands this beautiful provision.

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Thank you.

Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 9

It's another beautiful day and it's the 9th day of the "Let's Stop Rape" campaign.  We continue on the measure we can take to prevent rape. We consider the use of a common device as an option.

Day 9
- Self defence: Self defence is the act of defending yourself when you are in a helpless situation. It is acceptable in the court if proven irrespective of the outcome/damage on the person. You should learn how to defend yourself. It is a skill that can be learnt and will come in handy at times when someone attempts a rape. You can try Taekwando or Judo, Boxing or kick boxing.

You should also work at being fit. Register with a gym if necessary and be disciplined with your routine. Physical fitness also improves your mental alertness.

- Keep a speed dial: A speed dial is when you have a contact on your phone registered to a particular figure/button such that you just have to press only that button to dial the number stored to it. Every phone can keep a speed dial.

This is like a last resort to take when it seems you are  out of option. You do a speed dial without allowing the rapist know and start talking loud for your receiver to hear and swing to action as fast as possible. This means the person on your speed dial must be someone smart and patient, able to deduce what is going on and act on it as fast as possible. When the issue is out of control, you use your phone which will not bring any suspicion.
I guess we can figure out other thoughtful ways we can use our gadgets as security helps in times of difficulty.

You have a responsibility in this matter to protect yourself and your loved ones. Remember that a rape culprit can be masked in a simple and helpful look. It is better to be prepared than to be caught unawares.
Let’s stop rape.

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We will look at the last and dynamic way to be protected from rape. You shouldn't miss it.
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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 8

It's already the 8th day of the "Let's Stop Rape " campaign.  Today we continue to look at measures we can embrace to protect from rape.
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Day 8
We continue to see the measures we can take to protect ourselves and friends from rape.

- Communicate your movement (openly): It is important  that you communicate your movement to loved ones always. But very important is that if you find yourself in a situation you do not trust, try to call someone you can trust while it's still possible and speak confidently and openly for everyone in the room or area to know you are describing that location. Possibly talk about people within the vicinty  and how to get there.  This will put some fear and caution in the heart of the suspect to possibly have a rethink. If you will do this then you must be smart and be able to trust your sixth sense to identify a possible danger. You will not have the chance for this when the perpetrator is all ready and set to strike.

- Be smart & alert: This is about being thoughtful and able to think two or three steps ahead of the suspect. If you are found in a suspicious and unpleasant situation, you need to be smart and  very alert. You have to think of a possible way out of the situation without showing panic. You study the situation to see what will work to get you out without endangering your life.
You may engage in a conversation by speaking to the person's  conscience or you have a commanding verbal display of confidence to put things in order. You should also be aware of things around you or in the environment eg the kind of lock, possible object or tools to defend yourself while you talk yourself out of the situation. It may be shouting that will get you out of the situation.
Whatever you do, make sure you are not putting yourself in harm's way. Your life is very precious and must be put into consideration. There is hope for everyone living.

We will look at two more points tomorrow. We can stop rape and sexual molestation. Please share, lìke, comment and tweet. Join the “Let's Stop Rape “ campaign.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 7

Hello friends, it's day 7 of the "Let's Stop Rape campaign". Today, we look at how to to protect ourselves and loved ones. So relax, read, comment, share, like and tweet.

Day 7
The effect that rape leaves on people, families and even communities make it important to consider carefully how we can protect ourselves and loved ones. As it has been said that anyone can be a victim then we will deal with this for 3 days...

How do I protect myself, friends & family?

There are a few measures we can adopt to keep us protected from a rapist. Depending on the desperacy of the rapist you will need to keep all of them in mind and be very cautious and smart. The following are the measures to consider:

- No solitary trust: Solitary trust is when you have absolute trust in someone of not being able to commit a crime. While there are people you hold in that area in your life(I do) at least leave 1% chance for failure. For whatever reason there might be a shift in focus at that period to other things that gives chance for a fall. This will help you put other things in perspective and consideration like not creating all alone moments to be considered as temptation. It will let you pay attention to any case reported to you and not just discarding it without thinking through.
You cannot give any one a special trust. Everyone is a liable suspect. Take any case reported serious and intelligently investigate it.

- No dark areas: As much as possible you should avoid staying or walking in dark areas and routes alone. Evil they say thrives in the dark. The dark is an easy and enabling environment for rape to happen. You will likely not get help during this period because people are also afraid of the dark. It brings fear to the heart of people.
Try other busy routes, it's safer even if longer. If you must go the dark routes, go in a group and with bright light. As much as possible initiate in homes and communities that dark routes, rooms, corners be lit up. It will save possible victims from alot of danger.

- Open privacy: Open privacy is when you are in a private meeting with someone but in an open or common place. You should have your private meetings with the opposite sex in places that anybody can have acces to without seeking permission like an eatery or mall that gives you the chance for privacy among a crowd of people.
If you must have a meeting with some one alone, let it be a public place that can give you private time eg eateries, class rooms, shopping malls etc and if within your house let it be the general room(sitting area) possibly with doors left unlocked. This is especially for those in a relationship(adopt this to help yourselves).

- Create the awareness: You need to take up the responsibility to create an awareness about rape. Information takes away fear and ignorance. Some kids and adults have been molested because of ignorance. Lack of information creates an opportunity for vulnerability. You start by knowing about it and how to fight it. Then you talk to people you love about the issue of rape. No one is to young to learn. Teach your children not to let anyone touch their private parts. Teach them within the scope of what they can understand.

We will continue to look at more measures that we can put in place tomorrow. Please share, like, comment and tweet. Someone needs to know all these through you. Also feel free to share your questions or  personal experiences of how any of the above have worked for you.

Thank you.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 6

It's the sixth day already of the "Let's Stop Rape " campaign.  We look at the effect of rape on suspects today. You may say "who cares about the suspect?" but take a moment to read. Share, like, comment and tweet. Rape is evil,  we can stop it.

Day 6
Rape suspects should be aware of the adverse effect of rape. Children should be informed early about it as it helps them in their decision making. Today, we look at the adverse effect rape has on rape suspects.

- Perpetrator/Suspect
There are effects and Consequences for every action. Suspects in rape also have to deal with consequences for thrir actions. These consequences vary and may differ as every rape case differ. The suspect may have to deal with any of the following depending on the victim involved:

* Injuries: there is a possibility of being injured during the rape. Th victim may inflict serious injuries on the suspect depending on the advantages the victim may have at the  time. Advantages may be physical strength, fighting skills, weapon, intelligence etc

* STI (Sexually Transmitted Infections): every occasion of sex without protection is a risk to  contacting an infection.

* Guilt: suspects are always left guilty for the act committed except the heart is hardened already. The conscience will always query the wrong actions done. This may last for a long or short them and lead to low self esteem.

* Shame & loss of integrity: whatever integrity the suspect has before incident will be lost and it is usually difficult and will take time to regain such integrity.

* Loss of life(death): any suspect is at risk of losing his life. This may be during the rape by the victim. It may also occur from jungle justice or a sentence by the law depending on where the rape occurred.

* Sentence by law: a suspect that is found guilty will face the wrath of the law. In Nigeria, the penalty for rape is a life sentence.

This is to challenge us to charge and warn our children and ward to stay away from this menace to our society.

The satisfaction derived from rape is infinitesimal compared to the possible adverse effect that comes with it. You also have a responsibility to engage young boys and let them understand that there is no good in it.

Thank you.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 5

It's day 5 of the " Let's Stop Rape " campaign.  Today,  we look at the possible effects of rape on a victim..

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Day 5
What are the possible effects?
The effect that rape has on people cannot be confined to straight jacket. The effect differs per event, individual(s), response and reaction after the rape. It has an effect on both the victim and the suspect. We cannot afford to shove aside any incident of rape that come to our notice. We must act inorder to save a future.

It is said that "People who have been raped can be traumatized and develop posttraumatic stress disorder.[9]Serious injuries can result along with the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. A person may face violence or threats from the rapist, and, in some cultures, from the victim's family and relatives. - Wikipedia

Lets see some of these effects from the actors in a rape case. We will focus on the victim today.

- The victim
* injuries and tears: injuries may occur from struggles with the suspect. These injuries may be life threatening at times. Tears are likely to occur at body part where penetration was forced. It could be very bad in cases involving children.

* STI (Sexually Transmitted Infections): the suspect who cannot control himself will likely have STI from sleeping around.

* unwanted / unplanned pregnancy: a pregnancy may evolve from this evil act that is mostly unwanted. It is very emotional and challenging. In cases where the victim has been desirous of a pregnancy, it is still very difficult.

* loss of pride/self esteem: a lot of victims often experience a loss of self eteem. They are badly affected and feel so inadequate and find it difficult to fit in.

* depression: this results from a low self-esteem as earlier mentioned and mat tend to suicide thoughts and attempts.

* loss of life: life may be lost during rape or from the effect of the rape.

This shows why it is important to pay attention to this issue. We must be aware of happenings around us. We must Be vigilant and ready to act.
The effect that the management of these have on parents, guardians, homes and communities cannot be readily quantified. It pays to invest time now to avoid any rape incident than to manage a victim. Choose and act wisely.

Thank you.

Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 4

It's day 4 already. Join in the "Let's Stop Rape " campign.  Read, share, like, tweet.

Day 4

Who can be a suspect?
A Rape suspect is the person(s) who perpetuated the act of rape but have not been found guilty accordingto the law. This suspect would have committed the crime already by forcefully having a sexual intercourse. It means whether the court eventually declares guilty or not, the deed is done. A vast majority of rape cases are not reported while those reported do not get quick judgment or do not get at all. It makes it important that  everyone must be able to identify a potential suspect before the strike.

So the question to ask is - Who can be a suspect?

Who are you supposed to be mindfull of. Who can perpetuate the act of rape?
The truth is, following reports we have from the past ANYBODY can be a suspect.

Beginning from Faceless crook to distant relative to house/domestic help, friend, sibling, parent, clerics, teacher etc

Look at a few head lines.
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- Father, son take turns to rape 12-yr-old daughter - Vanguard News

https://www.vanguardngr.com › News

23 May 2017 · A 56-year-old man, Sunday Adimagwu, and his son, Kenneth, 21, were yesterday brought before an Ikeja Chief Magistrate's court and charged with defiling a 12-year-old girl. The father is ..

- Two women rape father of four [PHOTO] - Daily Post Nigeria

dailypost.ng › Metro

18 Jul 2017 · A 48-year-old teacher simply identified as Chivamba has narrated how two women forcefully abducted and raped him till his manhood got bruised. The father of four, who hails from ..

- SHOCKING: My Father Stríps Me Náked At Night and Rapes Me--Lagos Teenage Girl - Gistmania

www.gistmania.com › topic,174140.0.html

Emotion ran high recently at the Bar Beach Police Division in Lagos following revelation by a teenage girl of how her 57-year-old father, Mr Nwafor Ikoro, had been forcefully having intercoursé with her in the last three .

- Pastor Rapes Church Member's Daughter At His House - INFORMATION NIGERIA

www.informationng.com › 2017/07 › pa...

6 Jul 2017 · A Minna Magistrates' Court on Thursday in Minna ordered the remand of a 33-year -old clergy, Paul Aderinwa, in prison for allegedly r*ping a minor. Aderinwa was arraigned on a count ...

- Imam Rapes 22 Year Old In Exchange For Prayers ▷ NAIJ.COM - NAIJ Nigeria

https://www.naija.ng › ✔ Local news

Naij.com News ☆ A Muslim cleric, Rabiu Abdulquadri, is now cooling his heels in police custody after been arrested for raping a 22-year-old lady.

- Electrician rapes 15-year-old housemaid after installing decoder - Daily Post Nigeria

dailypost.ng › Metro

26 Feb 2015 · rape-3 An electrician, Chukwuka Onuorah, 33, who was contracted to install a DSTV decoder, ... who lived alone with the house help invited Onuorah over to her house to install the decoder.

- Houseboy rapes master's 12-year-old daughter in Jos - Daily Post Nigeria

dailypost.ng › Metro

12 Jan 2013 · The family of a 12-year-old girl residing at Laranto in Jos, Plateau state must be regretting their action for employing a 20-year old boy,Aminu Musa as their house boy. Aminu capitalised on .

- Houseboy kills madam, attempts to rape widow - The Nation Nigeria

thenationonlineng.net › houseboy-kills-...

6 May 2015 · Have been clubbed to death last Sunday by her teenage houseboy whose identity was being ... the same house boy went to a widow's flat in the same compound and attempted to rape her.

There are many more.

This implies two thing of many things.
- Nobody should be given a blind trust.
- You have the responsibility to protect against rape (either yourself, your ward and the possible perpetrator- do not help them).

There is a tendency to start being paranoid over this issue by suspecting everyone you see but you do not have to. You only need to have the right information to protect against rape and be aware. The first person to trust is the possible victim who must be enlightened within their scope of understanding.

Do not let down all your guards. Anybody can fail.

Thank you.