Sex Craze!!!

I attended a wedding ceremony in one of the states of the south – west of Nigeria. The experience or reality I discovered was embarrassing to me as a youth and challenging as a Christian. We arrived there a day before the wedding day so that we could start early the next day and get it all done with in no time.
On arrival to where some guys lodged (an hotel) was the flow of drinks (alcohol) and cigarettes. I refused the offer to take something alcoholic but stuck to the choice of a malt drink. It was bottle after bottle as it may not be considered strange – “boys life” right? To me it was out of place but it was not a shock in any way.
The shocker of the night was when young girls from the campus within the town were organised to be around for selection by the guys at an arranged/agreed price for the night. Notable and painful to me were two girls that really appeared naive. So many questions ran through my mind as I waited in observation of the fusion of this discovery to me (but the guys confidently spoke like it was common practice everywhere- this was to be confirmed via a phone call to another girl who can be arranged from the next campus town). The girls escaped being prey that night or may be a loss of business because of some misunderstanding. Guys felt bitter and disappointed in a night that had been pre-arranged in their thoughts. I felt a relief though but I was still uncomfortable with the environment/atmosphere.
Just before I left the environment, I was opportune to hear of a bargain between another young girl that was hanging around for a prospective “dealer” and a man. The young lady (girl) was asking was demanding for N5,000 while the man offered N2,000 only for the night. An agreement to this meant an overnight arrangement and she would have to invite other girls for the remaining guys at the agreed price. I’m wondering how many guys she would have slept with before she gets married?!?!
No matter how we look at this case, it is a sorry situation for our youths and the future of our generation. It is a drop in the moral standard of our generation in which sex is just a – fling, game, fun or exchange! Can you imagine the risk of STIs (especially HIV) that tends to spread? The excuse is that you can protect yourself- condoms. Does this imply that condoms aid immorality? It’s a pathetic situation and my wonder has been how this can be stopped or reduced. What do you really think? How are these young girls exposed or introduced to such immoralities? Can parents do anything to curb this situation that they are probably unaware of? Maybe it was a case of underage sex by one “uncle” that triggered the animal side of these girls or a true lack of funds from home? Do we organise a crusade to keep everywhere clean or ask university authorities to monitor undergraduates like secondary school students?
I know you can be of help from this point with more thoughtful questions and lines of solution which may include situations and people to blame about this. I think everyone should choose to go the responsible way and make the choices that will present us as honourable women and men (ladies and gentlemen). Actions that needs no defence or cover in future, such that will keep our heads held high and not with deflated minds.
Difficult as it may appear for someone who has an excuse to engage in these things or another that sees no moral wrong in it, there appears to be a common phase in the process – it is done in secret! This makes it wrong. Then why is it done anyway? Whatever the cause is, we can stop it. How? It begins with you. My suggestions are as follows:
Firstly, if you are not involved in such a practice (casual sex, flings, fornication etc), do not get into it. Stay clear from it in every way possible. The way to do it is to RUN from every appearance of evil. Once you start it, you don’t want to stop. It is addictive. Make up your mind to abstain till you are married. IT IS POSSIBLE!!!
Secondly, if you know or suspect someone who is actively or passively involved in it, then you need to try to help the person. You could start by praying for such a person (prayer will go a long way), then have a talk with him/her about the risks involved (s/he might be aware of them already but adopting a caring and not castigating approach might be the way in). Then offer whatever sincere help you can offer while you remain discrete about your discussions.
Thirdly, if you are the person in question and you want to stop but you honestly do not know how, you would have to talk with someone respectable about it. Such a person must be willing to help and counsel you through a process to break out of this mess. A truth you must remember is that you can if you decide to. It will not stop by wishing it away but it will require a conscious commitment with support. Go ahead.